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Helping Others: Everyday Perspectives of Individuals and Families

Helping others brings joy to all, but it's easy to forget in our busy lives. Empathy and perspective can deepen our connection.
By
Mike Simon
December 4, 2024

Introduction

As humans, we have a natural inclination to help others. Whether a small act of kindness or a grand gesture, lending a helping hand brings fulfillment and joy to both the giver and the receiver. However, in today's fast-paced society, it is easy to get caught up in our own lives and forget the needs of those around us.

But what if we could view the world through the lens of everyday perspectives? What if we took the time to truly understand and empathize with the struggles of others? This simple shift in mindset can make all the difference when it comes to helping those in need.

One way to practice this perspective is by putting ourselves in someone else's shoes. Imagine walking a mile in their footsteps, feeling their emotions, and experiencing their challenges. This allows us to see the world from a different angle and helps us develop a deeper understanding and connection with others.

Problems People Face When Searching for Resources

Service gaps within a community can leave individuals feeling trapped and unsure of where to seek assistance. This occurs when an agency reaches the limit of its capacity and is unaware of other organizations that could offer additional support.


Consider the example of a local church secretary who encounters a family of six seeking help. The father explains that he lost his job due to layoffs last week, and to make matters worse, their home was destroyed by an electrical fire the previous night.

All their belongings, including clothes, furniture, and supplies, were lost, and they are now homeless. Overwhelmed by their dire situation, the secretary might involve the pastor or a benevolence volunteer to search for solutions. However, the church's charitable resources are quite limited.

While they may be able to offer some financial assistance, it's clear that their resources are insufficient to fully restore the family's situation. When the mother inquires about other sources of help, the secretary or pastor might respond, "I'm sorry, but I'm not sure where else you could go for additional assistance."

So, what’s next for this family that’s facing extreme hardship?

Fragmentation

Fragmented and limited service delivery creates significant gaps in a community’s social safety net. In most areas, only a few assisting agencies, each working independently, attempt to support those facing difficult times.


These agencies often provide only temporary "band-aid solutions" to what are likely very complex problems or situations. The lack of coordinated services exacerbates the issue by preventing the development of an effective referral system, which could offer hope to struggling individuals and families.

Without efficient referrals, people fall through the cracks of a community’s flawed support system, causing many children, adults, and families to lose hope in finding the resources they need to transform their lives.

Red Tape

People in crisis often become disheartened when faced with excessive bureaucratic hurdles while seeking assistance. They encounter a deluge of paperwork, stringent eligibility criteria, and impersonal procedures.


This discouragement can be compounded when they have to approach multiple agencies, each with its own set of policies and procedures. Some argue that this process re-victimizes individuals, forcing them to relive their trauma every time they recount their story to a new helping agent. This can be especially humiliating for those who already find it difficult to ask for help.

Crisis Situations Can Happen to Anyone

A church pastor once shared a story that underscores the challenges some people face when seeking help, especially from strangers.

One morning, while looking out his office window, the pastor noticed a nice SUV parked in the church lot. The vehicle had been there for about 45 minutes, with a woman sitting in the driver’s seat. Curious if the car had broken down, he approached the driver to offer assistance.


The woman explained, "I’ve been sitting here, wrestling with myself about whether I should go inside the church. I know you provide emergency food for families, but I’m embarrassed to ask for help. My husband is a firefighter and earns a decent salary each month. But, it’s still difficult to make ends meet. After paying and mailing all our bills this morning, we realized we didn’t have enough money left for groceries this week."

She continued, "You might think we made a financial error, but the fact remains, we simply don’t have food to feed our kids this week."

The pastor reassured her, saying, "Don’t worry, we will help." The woman was immensely relieved and humbled by his compassion.

Reflecting on the encounter, the pastor realized that crises like food insecurity can affect anyone, not just those we typically consider "poor" or "less fortunate."

Bureaucracy Can Discourage People

Also, bureaucratic policies and procedures can discourage people from seeking help. 


I once heard a story of one state with over 150 million dollars allocated for social services.  However, most of this was not claimed by people in need.  Why?  Because people facing hardship said,

“We would rather struggle on our own, rather than go down to the welfare office.  It seems that many of the people who work there are very impersonal and look down their nose at us.  We don’t like it when they stare at us with judgmental eyes and ask so many personal questions, which frankly, is none of their business.”

Siloed Service Gaps

Siloed service gaps arise from fragmented and limited service delivery, affecting most communities nationwide. This creates a dysfunctional support system, hindering the development of an effective referral network within communities.


Remarkably, most communities host numerous helping agencies, each dedicated to making a difference. However, no single agency can meet all needs. Due to resource constraints, most agencies are restricted in the scope of services they offer and the number of people they can assist.

These limitations compel many agencies to adopt a specialized approach. Some focus on emergency relief—providing food, clothing, and shelter—while others concentrate on medical services, education, or training.

The challenge with these specialties is that individuals with limited transportation or knowledge about available help face significant obstacles. They often need to take time off work or arrange childcare just to travel across town, seeking assistance from multiple agencies.

Frustration mounts when people discover an agency's operating hours have changed, or that an appointment is required. The situation becomes even more disheartening when, after completing a rigorous application process, they are informed that the agency has exhausted its resources for the month.

Stuck in a Rut

Siloed service gaps and fragmented service delivery can trap individuals in a cycle of stagnation—akin to being in a grave with the ends knocked out. The limited support provided by various agencies often feels like a temporary fix, merely helping people "get by" rather than "get ahead" to a better quality of life and a brighter future.


However, there is hope as agencies across the country are learning to tackle this issue. Influential books like Bridges Out of Poverty and The Power of Collaborative Solutions are shedding light on the consequences of these service gaps and promoting a better understanding of how to overcome them.

The Benefit Cliff

Another negative consequence of “siloed service gaps” is the “benefits cliff” or “cliff effect” experienced by many low-income individuals and families striving to escape poverty but unable to secure a job that pays a living wage.

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A slight increase in household earnings can cause them to lose eligibility for supplemental public assistance, resulting in a net loss of resources and leaving them worse off than when they were receiving aid. This discouraging situation can diminish hope and deter people from seeking better opportunities.

Some may argue, "Why work at a low-paying job when I am better off staying home and receiving welfare checks from the government?"

The service gaps I've discussed highlight an important conclusion: fragmented and limited service delivery cannot transform lives and communities. True social change and transformation occur only when community agencies collaborate for the common good and a greater impact.

A Solution to the Problems

A solution for “siloed service gaps” lies in bridging the gap between support agencies using CharityTracker. This approach ensures individuals and families do not “fall through the cracks” in a community’s social safety net or service delivery system. It enhances access to vital information, resources, and opportunities that can transform lives.

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We encourage communities to leverage our care networking tools to “bridge siloed service gaps” by establishing a streamlined and effective referral system. Care Networking accelerates and simplifies the process of locating and coordinating resources, reducing a task that could take days to mere minutes, all thanks to real-time information sharing.

True Story

This story evokes a remarkable account shared by Cathy Easley, Associate Vice President of Community Impact at Trident United Way in Charleston, South Carolina. Cathy also serves as the Network Administrator for our nation's largest Care Network, which includes 300 organizations and 900 caregivers.

Early one morning, a middle-aged woman entered a church seeking assistance. She explained that her sole source of income came from a small sewing business she ran from home. Unfortunately, her only sewing machine had broken down and was beyond repair. Desperate, she sought help to purchase a new machine, fearing that the loss of income would severely impact her family.

The church secretary provided initial assistance and recommended notifying other local aid organizations about her urgent need. Within minutes, offers of help began to pour in. By supper time that very day, the woman was back at work with a new sewing machine, thanks to the swift and generous response from the community.

A Care Technology Network Can Help

A well-connected Care Network empowered by CharityTracker, with a streamlined referral system, offers a superior approach to identifying and coordinating resources for those in need. Through Care Networking, all assisting agencies, despite their limitations, can ensure they never turn anyone away empty-handed.

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Caregivers can confidently say, “I may not have exactly what you’re looking for, but let me check what’s available across our community.”

This means individuals receive better service because agencies throughout the community can collectively enhance their responsiveness to the needs of individuals and families. They can fortify the social safety net, making it easier to coordinate resources more efficiently and effectively.

Our networking tools simplify and expedite intake, assessments, and referrals, keeping individuals and families from slipping through the cracks. Agencies can mobilize resources quickly, reducing a process that often takes days to mere minutes.

A well-connected care network grants people greater access to knowledge, information, and resources from across the entire community.

A Care Network bolsters agencies’ ability to deliver personal and comprehensive care. Agencies can provide specialized help and collaborate with others to coordinate holistic care.

Conclusion

A coalition of helping agencies can now collaborate with individuals and families to develop a personalized “transformation roadmap” from crisis to sustainability to abundant living. This approach allows for coordinated assistance, referrals, and outcomes, enabling real-time progress monitoring and necessary adjustments.

By establishing a Care Network, agencies can unite to provide optimal care for those in need. Shared resources and collaborative efforts ensure no one is left behind, and everyone receives the support required.

A well-connected network facilitates quicker response times, more comprehensive care, and personalized assistance leading to long-term sustainability. Agencies must join forces and create a robust network of care for those who need it most.

Together, we can make a significant impact in our communities and ensure that no one falls through the cracks. Let’s continue to build a better future for all individuals and families in need by strengthening our Care Networks. The power of collaboration truly knows no limits.

Mike Simon
Simon Solutions, Inc.,
mike@simonsolutions.com
Since 2006, Mike has served as President of Simon Solutions, Inc., a trailblazer in "community impact solutions," earning the trust of thousands of helping agencies across more than 2,500 cities in 49 states, and now, internationally. These agencies employ our technology tools to communicate, cooperate, and collaborate more efficiently and effectively, uniting their strengths to overcome tough community challenges with greater impact and success. Mike has devoted his career to exploring emerging trends, best practices, and innovative strategies for transforming people’s lives and their communities.